5 Surefire Ways to Avoid Valentines Day Blues
Do you find yourself sitting alone on February 14th each year feeling blue instead of flushed with red? Are you one of the many who set high expectations for the day only to be let down by a partner who buys wilted roses from the market? Or do you buy your own box of chocolates, take a bite from each one and dream of sharing the other half with your imaginary Valentine? If you answered yes to any of the above questions then you are in serious need of a surefire way to enjoying this February 14th!
Let’s start with taking a look at yourself in the mirror. Exquisite Self-Care tip #8 was written with this in mind. Take 5 minutes to stare in the mirror at the beautiful person looking back. Write down what you notice about that person, how you feel and the essence quality inside. This simple tip gets you activated on how you see yourself, and that often is in direct alignment with how you show up in the world. When we see the truest part of our whole being, we can better connect to our goals and vision for what we want.
Now that you know what you want, you don’t have to settle for any holiday doldrums. You can create the experience you want for Valentines Day and surround yourself with love and admiration, which is the heart of the holiday anyway. If you can’t give that to yourself, you can’t expect anyone else to give it to you either.
Try these 5 surefire ways to a love inspired Valentines Day.
- Treat yourself to an evening at the Spa! Don’t wait for someone else to shower you with affection love on yourself instead by heading out to the spa for a treat. Even if you don’t have the $50 for a Mani/Pedi or Massage, spend $10 on your favorite treat, light some candles, draw a bath with bubbles, put on your favorite CD and indulge yourself in luxury.
- Invite your closest circle of friends over for Topas and Laughs. Share the evening with other friends who are single or without a mate to share the day with. Everyone can bring a delightful treat and you provide the game for laughs. All most people want on Valentines Day is to have connection with others they care about. To be acknowledged as a loving person. Surround yourself with those people in the comfort of your own home.
- Go on a blind date! I know breathe. Now listen, even if you are married, you can set up a blind date with your spouse and have a great evening. If you are single, be bold and ask another single person out or ask that person you have been eying at the water cooler out for drinks. Too much pressure? Get over yourself. If you don’t want to sit home, then take action and make the call.
- Catch a play at the local theatre. Community theatre has so much to offer and it is an untapped source for entertainment. Most of the plays are low cost and some theaters offer “pay what you can” to engage the community in what’s going on and give back at the same time. Invest in getting to know what’s out in your community and get involved. The theater crowd is warm and engaging, they welcome new faces openly, try it, you may just find a connection you weren’t expecting.
- Bake cookies for the office and share. Often times we get so focused on what we don’t have, that we forget what do have. If you work in an office, you have people around you that care for you and delight in what you do every day. Engage in more than ‘shop talk’ and find ways to inspire others from the action of your heart. It does the body and spirit good to give back without expecting anything in return.
Often times it is the way we look at our situation that affects how we perceive our opportunity or obstacle. Don’t let any event or holiday control the value that you place on YOU. Celebrate the little things, acknowledge all and be in gratitude for the life you have. That is the best gift you can give yourself this Valentines Day. Love on yourself!
